Been meaning to put this notion somewhere for years. Humbly yours if you like it :)

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Forget "emotional intelligence". It's emotional physics. Emotions make perfect sense when you stop demanding rationality, and start accepting physicality. When you push someone off an emotional ledge, you must catch them, emotionally. If you don't, they will die, emotionally. It doesn't matter whose "fault" it was. What matters is who did the pushing, and whether they also did any catching. Physics.